CAN YOU PUT A PRICE ON CONFIDENCE?
As parents we sometimes can’t see what is happening beneath the surface of our children. The person we see isn’t necessarily the person they see in the mirror. Low self – esteem, or lack of confidence, is a thinking in which an individual views him/herself as inadequate, unlovable, and/or incompetent.
It is estimated 7 out of 10 girls believe that they are not good enough or don’t measure up in some way, including their looks, performance in school and relationships with friends and family members. A girl’s self-esteem has shown to be more strongly related to how she views her own body shape and body weight, than how much she actually weighs. Among high school students, it is estimated nearly half of the girls and upwards of 20% of boys are attempting to lose weight. Sadly, about 20% of teens will experience depression before they reach adulthood.
Where and when such a mindset began is tough to determine. More importantly, solutions do exist. One of the top wishes among all teen girls is for their parents to communicate better with them; frequent and more open conversations…I know I know, good luck there…but it’s worth the try.
People, especially kids, are a product of their environment. Engaging with people who are positive and encouraging is a great way to boost confidence. Openly recognizing your children for doing well in school or tackling a tough project let’s them know their efforts aren’t going unnoticed. Ask them for help or for their opinion; this helps make your child feel needed and a part of the family’s decision process.
Til next time!
Are You Stressed?
We’ve all been there…or are there right now. Work, family, life piles up, never enough time in the day, too much on your plate. There’s nothing worse than stress getting the better of you. The endless list of things to do always seems to leave your own needs last and evokes a war zone between your mind and body.
Migraines, bitten fingernails, insomnia, weight gain, weight loss….you name it, many of our personal issues are indeed stress related.
Sadly, stress doesn’t affect only adults. Ours kids experience stress as well. Signs may include, lack of appetite, not wanting to go to school, lack of interest in things they used to like, or even just frustration with homework.
We know we shouldn’t allow stress to become a regular occurrence in our daily life but it happens to the best of us. So what to do? First, take a deep breath. You’re alive! That alone is cause to be thankful and happy! Hug your kids, remind them you love them and you are there for them no matter what.
Next, go do something. Anything. Take a break and do something active. Get the blood flowing and muscles moving. Biologically speaking, by releasing your “feel-good” endorphins, physical activity works to ease your stress load. Almost any form of exercise can act as a stress reliever, but it’s activities like yoga and martial arts that encourage the mind and body to work together tend to be the most effective.
Til next time,
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